The first secret? The power of THOUGHT.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what wethink about. Loving thoughts create lovingexperiences and loving relationships. Affirmationscan change our beliefs and thoughts aboutourselves and others. If we want to love someone,we need to consider their needs and desires.

The second secret? the power of GIVING.
If you want to receive love, all you have to do isgive it! The more love you give, the more you willreceive. To love is to give of you, freelyand unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness.Before committing to a relationship, ask not whatthe other person will be able to give to you, butrather what will you be able to give them. Thesecret formula of a happy, lifelong, lovingrelationship is to always focus on what you cangive instead of what you can take.

The third secret? the power of RESPECT.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless youfirst respect them. The first person you need torespect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respectask yourself, "What do I respect about myself?" Togain respect for others, even those you maydislike, ask yourself "What do I respect aboutthem?"

The fourth secret? the power of FRIENDSHIP.
To find a true love, you must first find a truefriend. Love does not consist of gazing into eachother's eyes, but rather looking outward together inthe same direction. To love someone completely youmust love them for who they are, not what theylook like. Friendship is the soil through whichlove's seeds grow. If you want to bring love intoa relationship, you must first bring friendship.

The fifth secret? the power of LETTING GO.
If you love something, let it free. If it comesback to you, it's yours; if it doesn't, it neverwas. Even in a loving relationship, people needtheir own space. If we want to learn to love, we must firstlearn to forgive and let go of past hurts andgrievances. Love means letting go of our fears,prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let goof all my fears, the past has no power over me -today is the beginning of a new life."

The sixth secret? the power of COMMUNICATION.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly,life changes. To love someone is to communicatewith them. Let the people you love know that youlove them and appreciate them. Never be afraid tosay those three magic words: "I Love You." Neverlet an opportunity pass to praise someone. Alwaysleave someone you love with a loving word - itcould be the last time you see them! If you wereabout to die but could make telephone calls to thepeople you loved, who would you call, what wouldyou say and ... why are you waiting?

The seventh secret? the power of COMMITMENT.
If you want to have love in abundance, you must becommitted to it, and that commitment will bereflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitmentis the true test of love. If you want to haveloving relationships, you must be committed toloving relationships. When you are committed tosomeone or something, quitting is never an option.Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationshipfrom a strong one.

The Eight secret? The power of PASSION.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lastingpassion does not come through physical attractionalone; it comes from deep commitment,enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion canbe recreated by recreating past experiences whenyou felt passionate. Spontaneity andsurprises produce passion. The essence of love andhappiness are the same; all we need to do is tolive each day with passion.